intentional connections
From 200 Contacts to 30: Network Pruning Guide
The Weight of a Bloated Contact List
Mark had 237 people in his phone. Former colleagues, college friends, people he met at conferences, parents from his kid's school, a trainer from his gym three cities ago. Every name…
From 0 to 150: Building a Contact Habit From Scratch
The Moment Maya Realized Her Network Had Disappeared
Maya is a freelance writer in Portland. She’s 34, works from a corner desk overlooking her neighbor’s overgrown apple tree, and had always considered herself pretty good at keeping up…
Build a Personal CRM System for Friendship Management
The Problem: Important Relationships Drift Without a System
I lost touch with my best friend from grad school. Not dramatically—we didn't fight or drift apart over some disagreement. We just stopped texting. Three years later, reaching out…
Contact Rhythms: A Calm System for Staying in Touch
I stopped hearing from a close friend sometime around 2020. No fight, no dramatic falling out—we just stopped texting. Three years later, I was reminded of them and felt a sharp pang of guilt. I should reach out, I…